“The same boiling water that soften the potato hardens the egg. It’s what you’re made of. Not the circumstances.” ~ Unknown
You’ve met my first cousin Melissa Wilson Moore many times by now. For those of you needing a score card or refresher, let me catch you up: Melissa’s mother (Lois) and dad are siblings. Lois helps with dad when things come up that require mom and I to be away. I’ve talked about Missy’s husband Mike being my brother from another mother because we share a love of drums and drumming. He’s the same Mike who helps with mom and dad’s house and yard. Like her mother and husband, Missy is a helper and she’s super stealthy about it, doing things that really make a difference. You know those things that, if they didn’t get done you’d notice, but you rarely notice while they’re happening. For example, yesterday at the birthday, I watched her as she walked into the kitchen just laughing and talking while simultaneously making room on the table for more food, getting drinks for the family. She nonchalantly took the utensil from my hand as she and I were talking at the grill. Before long she was done grilling. I was still talking. Everyone was enjoying the birthday cake on the deck as she moved quietly inside to wash dishes. All of this is normal behavior for Missy. She does it everywhere she goes as naturally as if breathing air. She never asks for anything in return, let alone expect notice. While this side of her family was celebrating another revolution around the sun, her father’s side of the family was only hours away from losing one of their own; Missy’s cousin Nicky, a young woman of only 40 with two young children had been fighting desperately for two weeks to stay on this side of the veil until the struggle became too great. You never ever know where life will take you or how short or long it might be. Carpe diem, friends. Take care of yourself for your people if not for yourself. Love your people and love them deeply. Do your part. Be kind. My wish is that you have a Melissa in your family. She is a gift.